I used to struggle with saying “YES!” too often at work.
It conditioned others to view me as the “go-to” when hard things needed to be said or done quickly and…
My energy, weight, and health suffered.
So did my attitude because I resented people for it.
BUT I was the problem because…
YOU teach your boss & colleagues how to treat you!
Now I have a strategy for managing the issue.
It’s what I use, what I teach clients, and it works!
Boundaries challenge MANY busy, professional women and...
It leads to major stress!
So, I’m sharing 4 tips to help YOU!
But first - what do unhealthy boundaries look like?
• Do extra projects to avoid saying “no.”
• Regularly stay for late and unscheduled meetings that “run over.”
• Take NOT URGENT weekend calls and reply to emails after work hours.
• Rarely take a day off - even if you’re ill or exhausted.
Well, none of that makes for a healthy work-life balance.
It burn you out, creates stress, and makes you gain weight!
Use these 4 tips to put boundaries in place:
1. Take leave:
PTO is an earned benefit, so use it.
Mental exhaustion is a valid use of sick leave!
And letting vacation time accrue & expire doesn’t earn you pride points.
2. Clearly communicate your BUSY-NESS:
Set “out of office” responses in email, on your phone, and in apps like Slack.
BLOCK time for “deep mode” work.
Make it visible on your calendar and shut your office door.
A sign directing visitors to who can help is an appropriate way to show you’re being productive.
3. Delegate work:
You do the work you’re hired to do, and you do it well.
As a “team player” you occasionally take on extra projects outside your responsibilities.
So when work is completely beyond the scope of your role, say “no” or delegate it to someone more suited to do it.
4. Keep work relationships professional:
A job worth keeping is a job - not a family.
Of course, you may have a close colleague.
But do not confuse her for your BFF.
It can be tricky to navigate, but maintaining these professional boundaries avoids disappointment and potential future backstabbing.
My clients share horror stories.
I have them too with video to prove it.
In today’s business minded-work world, dog-eat-dog cultures exist.
It’s not always easy, but solid boundaries help you do your best work and avoid potential toxic situations.
And it protects your health!
Which one of these tips do you need to work on?
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I used to be a SLAVE to calorie counting.
I believed it was THE way to lose weight. (Until counting fat grams became hot.)
I counted and cut calories - drastically.
When the scale didn’t budge, I counted and cut them MORE.
Then I cried because the damn scale still didn’t move!
Have you been there?
Here’s the thing…
Calories matter - sort of.
But we don’t need to count them to lose weight.
And here’s why it’s a waste of your time and…
It actually adds pounds to your body:
1. That tracking keeps you in “diet mode,” which feels like crap and isn’t sustainable for life!
2. Calorie counting focuses on the WRONG thing for weight loss and health.
You can restrict yourself to 1200 cals a day and still GAIN weight.
Calorie quality is key and to be frank, you don’t know how to evaluate that for YOUR body at your age, and your goals without expert help.
Plus, calorie restriction always leads to rebound weight gain.
So your “calorie counting diet” makes you fatter.
3. Food labels LIE!
Yep, laws allow for labels to be inaccurate by 20% or more depending on where you are AND…
The calories listed are based on averages, which absolutely doesn’t factor in the complexity of individual digestion processes.
Add to that the changes your body has undergone with age, and you’re suckered by those lying numbers.
Most of you eat FAR more calories than you think EVEN if you track them.
Here’s how you beat this weight loss battle!
Focus on what you eat, rather than how many calories you eat.
With an expert guide’s help, not Google or some BS fad diet, you can learn how to feed your body so you stay healthy and lose weight for good!
Look…I know it can be easy to fall into the diet trap.
I remember being willing to do ANYTHING lose weight, and I did.
I bet you have too.
But it NEVER works in the long run.
You’re still unhealthy.
You have no energy and you’re winded bending over to tie your shoes.
Nothing fits, and life just feels shitty.
But it doesn’t have to be that way…
And I’ll help you get a start on how to change it!
Just click below and send me the word #HELP
Hi, I'm Lori!
I'm a wife, mom, grandma, former college professor and VP, turned weight loss and fitness professional passionate about helping busy, professional women lose weight and manage burnout levels of stress, so you live comfortable and confident in your own skin - and never diet again.